Share Your Bliss

I’ve read something just now and it touched something deep down in me. I’ve heard the words before many times, and I always knew what they meant or at least what they were supposed to mean. For some reason today was the day when it touched something in my heart. I’d like to share them with you, who knows, maybe today is the day for you as well when it all makes sense:

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My heart like fingers played the words on the piano keys and the whole melody just made sense.

It all dawned on me: I’m so scared to play big and go after my dreams. I tend to overthink and over-analyze everything. I think I’m a wizard, who can foretell the future.  I like to play it safe and I like to keep my talents hidden. I play it small so I don’t have to fall straight on to my face. Who likes to be vulnerable? It’s such an ugly sight when I fall, and it’s such a heart breaking experience picking up the pieces and cleaning up the mess. I think it’s all in my head. I decide with my head, when it’s a matter of the heart. I need to believe in myself, I need to believe that I can, I need to follow that sparkle. I need to give myself permission to come out of my turtle shell and show my true self.

We’re all born to this world for a reason, we have many unique talents, and we all have greatness in us. Things were not meant to be easy, let me tell you. Many times we are tested. Many times we bump into close doors, or worst, doors are slammed into our face. But, that’s all fine. Maybe that door wasn’t meant to open for us because there was something else, something greater waiting for us further down the road. If you give up and settle for less, you’ll never know what’s your talent, what’s your bliss, what are those things that make you shine and sparkle.

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Be grateful for closed doors — @Edinburgh. picture by me

We need to keep going, and when we find something that makes us shine, we need to rock that and we need to share that. This whole life only makes sense when we share our bliss with others, when we share that bit of sparkle with others so we can shine together. At the end of the day, I think, that’s all that matters. Please don’t settle for less, and don’t give up the search, we need what you have inside you. Don’t hide from this world. Open up! Share your inner beauty with us!

— write it –sing it –draw it –design it –dance it –create it –cook it –bake it –swim it –run it –speak it –yoga it — massage it — build it –sew it –teach it –pray it –any ways you can, whatever is your way, just share it!

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One of my favorite place on this planet: @island of Lombok, Indonesia. picture by me

 

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Let’s inspire each other for a healthier and happier life.

Much Love!

Here’s to the dreamers

Have you ever felt like you’re just running around in circles while trying to figure out what you’re meant to do with your life? You feel the call, you know there has to be something more to this life but you just can’t figure out what it is, and what the next step would be. After all these year I feel like I have some of the pieces of the puzzle but I cannot put the picture together:

I want to help people, I feel very strong about human rights, equality and justice, I love creative vibes, I’m in love with textiles and patterns, I enjoy writing and finding creative channels through which I can express the world inside me, I love healthy and organic stuff, travelling makes me feel alive, yoga and exercise help me to connect to myself…

Sometimes I feel stuck and annoyed wishing I had certain skills, because for sure if I had those skills I would be able to figure out my purpose; or if I did this or that course to gain this and that skill, for sure I would be able to put my life’s puzzle together.

Do you ever feel envy or happy for people who seem to be on the right track? I never felt envy, thanks goodness, and I’m very grateful for that! Others’ success stories make me happy and they inspire me. They show me that indeed it is possible. Dreams do come true. But then again I’m back to step 1.

I think most of the time we are looking for solutions outside and we forget to look inwards. Everything we are looking for, all the answers are already inside of us, we already have everything we need in order to achieve great things. I think deep inside we know what we need to do to get out of the vicious circle, we are just afraid to do the first step. We’re afraid of falling, failing and taking risks. There’s no such thing as taking a step towards the wrong direction. The first step might not take you straight to your dreams but for sure it is taking you towards it. As someone said it is the journey that counts. The small steps you take towards your goals and dreams, they all count.

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So here it is to all the dreamers like me: don’t just dream, believe as well that one day the BIG dream will come true. Dare to make the first step however small that step is. Listen to the voice that says “Yes, you can!” and ignore the voices that say it is impossible. We’re all born here with a purpose, that’s for sure I know, and we can achieve incredible things.

(picture from pinterest)

Overcoming Bad Habits – BYN 2.

Beautify Your Nails, 2nd part

A week ago I wrote about overcoming bad habits (post: “Beautify Your Nails”), and my habit of nail biting.
Another week, actually a week and a half passed since then and my nails are still long. We went grocery shopping today and I wandered away and found myself in the beauty section (what a coincidence). When I saw this orange nail polish I knew it was the One. Don’t ask me why, I guess I just wanted a vivid color that reminds me of summer. Because it’s still so cold outside. I can’t wait for spring to come. And, it does the job perfectly, my nails cheer me up just by looking at them.

As I said, it’s so important to celebrate even the tiniest achievement. It gives you enough strength to go on and overcome the next obstacle. I was celebrating this time with buying a new nail polish and more selfies.

Here’s my recipe for success: (hope you find it useful)

1. Pay attention and understand: The most essential thing to overcome bad habits, I find, is paying close attention to yourself to understand your habit. Let’s stick to my nail biting. I always try to catch myself in the moment and understand what has just happened that triggered the necessity of my biting my nails. In my case I find it’s stress, worrying and so much more. If I can catch myself in the midst of my thoughts and become conscious of my action just when it’s about to happen I know I have a very good chance to prevent my nail biting. It’s a matter of seconds, let me tell you.

2. Change your thoughts: You can always change your thoughts, your thought pattern. By changing it you ultimately change your mood and the way you feel in your body. “Peace is a thought away!”

3. Love yourself: Never punish yourself! Doesn’t matter if you fail, what matters is that you get back up and try again. Tomorrow is a new day. Love and accept yourself, and work from this place of tranquility to change whatever needs to be changed in your life.

4. Stay positive and motivated: I love Oprah and her interviews. They give me so much inspiration and motivation to go on and follow my path. I like walking to work. It takes me about 30 minutes, those 30 minutes give me the perfect opportunity to listen to such life and world view changing interviews, and you do some exercise at the same time. 😉 The other day I was listening to her interview with Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard-trained neuroscientist, about her book “My Stroke of Insight.” It’s a very interesting interview about her having a stroke and her life afterwards. She says here that “peace is a thought away,” and it just stroke something inside me. Here’s the link if you’re interested:

I always make sure to listen to or read such inspirational interviews. They help me stay positive and motivated.

5. Get active: I also find physical exercise useful when it comes to bad habits. I believe physical exercise as such gives you a healthy self-esteem, positive energy and positive thoughts that help you overcome the lows and stay strong.

6.Talk about it: Talk with your friends, your parents. If you feel like you need an outsider’s opinion there are so many platforms out there where you can find people with the same issues. Sharing and talking about it with others may give you a different perspective. If you can’t share it with the world, share it with yourself, write it down on a piece of paper.

7. Write about it: Write down the pros and contras of your habit. Why are you so afraid to let go of the habit? What’s withholding you to change? How would life be once you overcome the habit? Seeing the pros and contras will give you a deep insight, but be very honest with yourself.

8. Visualize: (this should have come at the very top of my list) Visualize the new, happier you!

Good luck all’ya beautiful people! We can do it!

“Be The Change” 2015

*This is the re-edited version of my blog post from January 2014.*

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This is how change happens… step by step … bit by bit… gradually!

but we want it all and at once.      we want it NOW.

It happened and happens to me, too.. I get frustrated that the desired results don’t come as fast as I want them. A grey fog sits on my mind… the peace I just felt a second ago disappears … my body feels heavy and I feel lost. I wanna give up.

Then, in a clear moment, I catch myself in the midst of the fog and remind myself that it’s okay (Take a deep breath, girl! Slow down! Take it easy! It’s gonna be fine!) … and like a ray of sunshine, peace starts to flow back into my life and I’m aware again.

Change is not easy, and there will be ups and downs. That’s why we need to take it slow. It has to be conscious and planned. About a month ago, I decided I want to change, and I want this change to cover every aspect of my life: starting with myself, relationships, health, environment… everything you can imagine.

I decided to change every day one thing, however small that thing would be. Each and every step counts, even the tiniest… and if you fall? doesn’t matter, get up and get up again. You can’t fail in life! There’re no mistakes, just lessons to learn! There’s always a new day, a new hour, a new minute to start over and try again!

This is how I started the journey:

  • I gave my home a good and thorough clean – I threw and gave away everything I don’t use and was sure would never use again. I packed the things I hold dearly, but don’t use, in a box. It’s like a space cleaning, wanted to get rid of the old, negative energies (2014)  /// I’ve done the same a few days ago this year, 2015
  • started my BLOG in December to motivate myself and maybe with my journey I can inspire others as well (2014)  ///  I’ve come back to my blog, finally. I’ve been on a dairy-free diet for more than a month now, and I wanna write about my experiences, and I love writing. I really missed blogging in my life.
  • I’ve been keeping a JOURNAL for years now to jot down my plans, ideas, aims, desires for the future (2014) /// (2015) I bought a new journal: New journal for new plans
  • I do my own VISION BOARD every year and hang it on the wall; it is a reminder of my plans. I love putting positive affirmations, quotes on the board like these: The light that radiates from your smile shines on the world you desire (2014) /// (2015) New vision board is in progress.
  • I read, listen and watch works that inspire and motivate me. I have a shelf only for “spiritual” books.
  • I like to wake up 5-10 minutes earlier to give thanks, express my gratitude and start my day with positive energies /// (2015) I kept this very positive custom of mine 😀
  • I do exercise every day. Doing physical exercise is like a drug, it flies me to a different dimension, to a state of BLISS, where my mind switches off… the problems, the struggles of every day life don’t exist anymore. It’s just ME with myself…and this is where the magic happens, this is why I, and everybody who does some kind of sport, keep coming back: to be in this state of peace, of creativity(2014)  /// (2015)  I wake up 1-1.5 earlier to exercise (I’m rocking Shaun T’s Insanity Workout
  • Started changing the way and what I eat. I hate diets, it stresses me out. So I didn’t want to go on a diet, I rather wanted to change the things I eat. I had 3 reasons to do so: health issues, weight issues (wanted to loose a few kilos) and just simply wanted to feel good in my skin again. ~ I’ve decided to make my own DIY cook book and collect the recipes I love (I love scrap booking, so it’s an awesome idea to express creativity)
  • Started to change my hair and skin products to organic and homemade ones. I like to use organic oils, organic shampoos, soaps… without SLS and all the harmful, toxic ingredients (2014) /// (2015) I still love and use organic beauty products. This year I will try and focus to change all my make up products to organic ones. It will be a bit of a challenge because of their availability and price. But everything is possible!!!
  • and I wanna change many more things…. but I need to be patient (2014) /// (2015) and consistent.

In the midst of wanting to change, always remember the first and foremost thing: to love and accept yourself the way you are… You can only accomplish great things with love. Be kind, Be patient to yourself and things will come to you!


“Milk for Humans”

Well, Hello Oat Milk!

In my last blog I was writing about my experimenting with different types of non-dairy milk: coconut, coconut- rice combo, almond, rice. From the above mentioned types my favourite was the rice milk until I’ve found this Swedish oat milk. It’s delicious!!! Today I found myself drinking it out of the box 😉 I think that’s a sign of our eternal friendship. Coffee, porridge, cereals just taste delicious with this milk. There are still two types of milk I wanna try: hemp and cashew milk.
I’m 99.9% sure I’ll stick to oat milk, though. As I said, it’s delicious and most of all it’s affordable, and I totally adore it’s box. On each box, there’s a different picture, message, piece of information about the company and oat… It’s just way too original, and there’s an organic version as well.

The are two more things I wanted to write about:

~~~ One was about how to stay strong and focused when a piece of cake is staring back at you from the fridge. That was a tough moment for me as I love all sorts of sweets, chocolates, ice creams and the list could go on forever. I’ve been tempted so many times in this last month since I started my non-dairy diet.
What I do in moments like this is : I take a deep breath and remind myself that “it isn’t worth it.” A slice of yummie cake or a piece of biscuit are NOT worth the pain and the bloating…
Best of all, as a reward, I feel awesome and healthy in my body. Because of the restrictions on what I can and cannot eat, I always need to rethink my diet and thanks to that I keep losing weight. (Yes, I exercise as well, which is turning into a slight obsession now, but I don’t mind) As the days are passing, I crave less and less for “unhealthy”* food. (* by “unhealthy” I mean food that is not good for my health, food that contains dairy)

~~~There’s one more thing that’s been kinda bugging me and wanted to write about. That is: Eating Out! I don’t eat out a lot, a couple of times a month maybe, but there are days when I like to grab a sandwich on the go but it’s been a mission impossible most of the time. Well, that’s what Internet is for, right?! To find vegetarian and such restaurants, where you can find “healthy” food on the menu. I shall do that. In my next blog, I’ll write about my eating out experience.

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You are enough

When you realize that ‘You alone are enough’, that you don’t need anyone or anything to be happy… That’s when you become whole; that’s how you mend your broken heart.

For some it’s a moment of realization, for some it’s a lifelong lesson. And when you find someone to share your life with, or your dream job etc…That’s is just the whipped cream on your ice cream!

(Your circumstances don’t define you!)